“You like Harry Potter, too?”
That, my dear friends, is the start of a magnificent friendship.
Let me tell you a story.
Every summer, my mom’s cousin and his wife stay over at our place for a few days. About three years ago, they brought their eldest daughter with them, who is my age. We’d never met before and we didn’t really know anything about each other, other than the fact that we were cousins. So in the beginning, it was a little awkward as we were still trying to get a feel for each other (that sounded a little sexy — it’s okay, I can make this joke because we’re related by marriage, not blood). About an hour passes and I’m talking to my uncle about where I would like to travel, and I tell him I would really like to see the Harry Potter theme park in Orlando, Florida.
Out of nowhere, the most beautiful words in the history of mankind fill my ears:
“You like Harry Potter, too?”
I look at my cousin and our eyes fill with hope and outright joy at this amazing discovery, and we didn’t shut up all night after that. We compared all the fandoms we could think of (“What about Sherlock?” “Sherlooooock!” “RIGHT?!”) and made a list of YouTube videos we wanted to show each other. Three years later, we’re still close friends.
I’ve met so many wonderful people through fandoms. I made about a gazillion awesome friends on Goodreads, simply because we all share a love of reading. I’ve met brilliant people while spending time in Facebook groups dedicated to Benedict Cumberbatch and Sherlock (and even got a fantastic pen pal out of it!). And here we all are, a community of our own, because we love books so much, we decided to blog about them. I’ve been blogging for just over a year now and it never fails to amaze me how lovely everyone is.
Here’s a small list of reasons why fans make awesome friends.
You’ll never run out of things to talk about
For one, you can do like my cousin and I did and basically name all the fandoms ever to see what else you have in common. But other than that, if your conversation happens to hit a roadblock, you can always revert back to what initially made you friends. I mean, can you imagine running out of things to talk about when it comes to Harry Potter? Yeah, me neither. I can go on for years, bud. And look at ALL OF THE BOOKS you’ve read! That’s a lot of books. I bet you have some books in common. I bet you could talk for ages about that.
I’m not the most passionate person out there — in fact, the one thing that really bugs me about myself is that I haven’t found a true passion yet. Still, there are certain things I really like and know I can spend hours, days, weeks, months, years on. Such is the same with everyone else in the fandom. Not only that, but some of them are a creative bunch, and they’ll make the most beautiful artwork (see drawings above), stories, and other geekery. There are no limits to what fans can do with what they’ve given (see Sherlock fandom — we don’t have a lot, but boy do we make use of it).
You have a lot in common
Yes, we do! Hello, you! Since you’re reading my blog, I bet you’re into reading and blogging, unless you’re either my mom or Maraia (hello!). And maybe you like writing too, or baking nice things, or playing games, or watching TV, or perhaps we simply like some of the same genres and/or books. The thing is that you and I can be very different people — worlds of different! — but we will still find a way to get along because of those few things we both like.
They’re open-minded and open-hearted
A small minority not included, fans are usually a very tolerant people. If you don’t think about the ship wars or the “I loved it first” fights or “he’s mine!” arguments, fandoms are open for everyone, no matter what gender or size or race or what kind of pie you like. As long as there’s that thing we think is cool and you think it’s cool too, you’re welcome to join us and we’ll talk about the thing that’s cool for hours.
And I think that’s pretty cool.
Are you in many fandoms? Do you feel the same way?