It’s 8 PM in the evening and I’m currently experiencing a massive surge of anxiety, which I haven’t had in a while. I’m not sure why this is happening today, but there’s a number of things that’s been going on:
- I’m home alone
- I’ve just passed the theoretical part of my driver’s test, which means I’ll actually be driving a car again soon, which is a huge responsibility
- I’m doing my very first paid beta reading and I want so so badly for this to go well and for my client (heh, that sounds fancy) to be happy
- A constant feeling of discontent regarding how much work I put into the blog, no matter how hard I work on it
And just… it feels like a very general sense of anxiety. There’s no real worrying about any of the aforementioned events, and yet here I am, feeling the anxiety wake up every nerve in my body, waiting for my chamomile tea to cool, and writing a post about anxiety.
So here’s what I usually do to try to calm down.
Make a cup of chamomile tea
This is a very unpleasant experience. I’m a really picky tea drinker and I honestly hate the smell and taste of chamomile tea. But it works like a charm. I instantly feel more calm and relaxed, so it’s worth getting through the disgusting stuff.
Go for a walk
I’ll generally pick the lightest form of exercise I can manage (walking or a soothing, stretching yoga sequence) as it gives my body a way to exert all this pent up energy. Frazzled nerves calm their tits. And fresh air (and sunlight if you can catch it) will do wonders for your wellbeing.
Watch Carrie Hope Fletcher videos
My number one YouTube channel is Carrie Hope Fletcher’s, or ItsWayPastMyBedtime. She is a singer, a vlogger, a writer, a reader, an actress, a nerd, a Disney lover, tea drinker, and all-around lovely and warm-hearted person who spreads happiness and positivity. Her videos always make me smile and give me something else to focus on for a while.
Or videos of cute animals
Yup, I’m one of those people. I love watching cute animal videos and I don’t think I’ll ever get enough of them. “Oh my god look at that puppy doing cute stuff edhiuzehiuzheuih” and I’m gone.
Hug my cat
My cat is truly an old bitty at 19 years old and she’s got a touch of dementia, but she’s still an excellent cuddler and lap warmer. Cat purrs are scientifically proven to calm you down, because they signal contentment. My cat has honestly helped me through so many bouts of anxiety.
Watch a beloved sitcom
I grew up with sitcoms such as Friends and That ’70s Show and they’ve always been there whenever I needed a distraction. Especially That ’70s Show has helped me through many mornings when I was really anxious about having to spend yet another 8 hours in high school with stomach pains. More recent favourites are New Girl, Scrubs, and The Big Bang Theory.
Drink a glass of water
Never a bad idea.
Read something light-hearted
Another thing I can focus on (though not always) is reading, especially really light and fluffy reads where there’s not too much drama and heavy stuff going on. Something that will make you smile and lift your heart will do the trick. Definitely grab for a contemporary or a chicklit.
Talk to someone
No one expects you to handle this shit alone, so you shouldn’t expect it of yourself either. Don’t be too proud to ask for help. I personally don’t like to talk about my anxiety when I’m feeling it, but I’ll just text a few people and get random conversations going and that’ll usually help a ton.
Take a shower
I’d love nothing more than to take long, hot, bubbly baths with scented candles and the works, but our hot water only stays hot for so long. I prefer my showers to be the temperature of the seventh circle of hell, you see. But there’s nothing better than to take a nice shower and lather yourself up with a generous amount of your chosen product to really feel like you’re taking care of yourself.
Play a game
One of those mindless, time-consuming games will do. Something simple as Candy Crush can easily take my mind off of things, and therefore I have like seven different variations on there. You know, for when I get stuck on a level somewhere – which is not relaxing. On the PC, I love the Delicious Emily series on Gamehouse, which is a series of time management games with cute storylines in which you prepare food and take it to the customers. Not too taxing and really kills the time.
Treat myself to clean sheets
When I’m feeling anxious for a longer period of time, I’ll try to treat myself to some freshly cleaned sheets (if I have the energy for it), preferably fresh out of the washing machine. I love the smell of our fabric softener – lilies – and smells can be really powerful soothers.
If all else fails, I’ll try to go to sleep and hope that things are better in the morning.
I actually feel a little bit better after writing this post, but I’m still not there yet. So I’m going to lie on the couch, watch some New Girl, drink some nasty tea, and hug my cat. Multi-tasking.
What do you do to relax?